People are always complaining that it is so hard to meet a love interest. I’m here to testify that it is only as hard as you make it. Yes, it is difficult to meet the right match for a longterm commitment, however the introduction part is easy and that is why you have to start doing this fast.
Create Open Space
Have you ever heard that you need to be more open? If you have been following my blog and Instagram @InterracialTips then you know that this is a recurring message. While you are sitting in a coffee shop, reading a book or on your laptop, try to sit in a position facing outward. This is a more inviting position for you to look up and out to someone and for that person to do the same towards you. If you are sitting alone, try not to spread out all of your things to cover the who table. Leave some space for someone to feel welcome to sit with you.
If you see someone that you think is interesting, smile. If you look away without making eye contact, how is this person to know that you are welcome to a chat? A smile is a warm welcome and also sort of an invitation to be friendly to each other.
It’s that simple. If you are in line at a bank, at a coffee shop, at the school book store, at the gas station, or wherever you find yourself, look up and look around you and then say “Hi”. I see too many people glued to their phones and missing the opportunity to make connections in person with people all around them. Say hello to the guy in front, ask the girl beside you how her day is going and so on.
Be Interested and Interesting
This requires you having a good sense of intuition and being able to pick up on social cues. It’s good to ask a person how their day is going, but if he/she is not very receptive the conversation may not even start. You want to show some interest and let the conversation and vibe flow. The last thing you want is to be asking a ton of questions and only getting one word answers back. Then you feel like a nosy loser with a little bit of creep. A good conversation can flow like this:
“How is your day going”
“It’s funny how we stand in line all this time and then get to front and still try to figure out what to order”
“I already know what I’m getting.”
“Aww…nice. A decisive woman.”
“You better believe it. I always go with my favorite, caramel latte.”
“I usually go through drive through, but I decided to come in and chill for a bit”
“Cool. Are you heading to the festival this weekend?”
“I am not sure…”
And go on from there….
Be as Natural and as Genuine as You Can Be
I know you’re tired of hearing that you must be authentic. This advice will never get tired because people are often trying to be someone they are not. Remember, you’re looking to make lasting relationships and the best way to do that is by being true to yourself and to the people you interact with. It’s much easier to just be yourself.
I’d love to hear your suggestions and things that have worked for you out there. Leave your comments below.
Thanks for readings.