Foundational Friday: Be Calm and Carry On Applies to Interracial Dating Too

How many times have you seen Be Calm and Carry On or Be Calm and Drink Coffee written on a mug or a shirt.  This idiom works for interracial dating too. Be calm and date on.   Don’t spend even a second worried about what others think. Focus on you and your partner.  What works for you?  Be calm about your union, enjoy your union and love your union. Love your differences and always see the light in your relationship.




Foundational Friday: Speak Up


Do not judge, or you too will be judged -Matthew 7:1

Yesterday on our Facebook page, I posted a video from the show What Would You Do. The clip featured a woman getting her hair done in an Atlanta hair shop.  She spoke about her boyfriend and when the hairstylist found out that the woman’s boyfriend is white she proceeded to judge and spew hateful comments about why this woman should not be dating a white man.  If you haven’t seen the clip check it out here.  In this clip, we discover how people surrounding the conversation respond to what are they were hearing.

When you find yourself in a similar situation, are you bold enough to speak up? Do you have a solid foundation to proudly speak your mind for what you think is right?  You all know where I stand with this issue.  I am pro-interracial dating and I would have to put this hairstylist in her place.  If anyone is judging you for your choices, stand strong and speak up.

Foundational Friday: Know Your Roots

This Friday check in on yourself.  Remember all the great times that you had growing up. If you have no fond memories, then it is probably better not to dig up the past.  I’m thinking about knowing my roots because I don’t want to get lost in completely consuming my husband’s culture and he doesn’t want that either. We always check in with each other to learn more about each other’s roots.  When we have children we will pass on good traditions and memories from our past and also create our own that are unique to our interracial and biracial family.  Honoring our roots helps to build a strong and confident foundation.

Step Inside Another Culture

I had a dream about inviting a stranger into my home.  I am trying to analyze it and figure out what it means.  The stranger in my dream was a homeless man that I often spoke to and became friendly with.  One fine day, he asked me the following question: “If we are really friends, why don’t you invite me to your home?”

This question has me thinking today.  Is there someone in my life that I need to get closer with and that includes inviting them to my home?  Is there someone in your life that you could get closer with?  So often, we spend time talking casually with people and we call them our friends, but we never invite them into our home.  I believe that when you are able to share your space with someone that is the time when the true friendship begins.

When people that you want to share your life with come into your home, they really get to know you. They see how you live and what is important to you.  Getting to know someone of a different culture is very much the same.  You have to step into the culture to truly experience it and understand it better.  When you are dating someone of another culture, it is not enough to say that you are open to dating people of another culture.  It is more to say that you connect and the only way to connect is by doing.  Attend important events, participate in activities, learn a bit of the language, and customs.

Some people worry that by immersing in the other person’s culture, you are separating from your own.  Do not let that be true.  Multiculturalism is multi for a reason.  Spend time celebrating your own culture and the other person’s too and whatever other cultures you fancy.

Most importantly have fun!