We are to live forward and not in the past. For all of you who have been hurt by someone in a previous relationship, do not let that person’s race, culture, or faith affect you from dating someone of the same in the future. You know all humans make mistakes and everyone is capable of hurting someone’s feelings. I grew to understand that the people we love the most are the ones that hurt us the most, so leave race and everything our of it.
Take the story of Kim and Al, an interracial couple; she being Asian and he is Caucasian. They were together for 4 years and had an awesome time together. They traveled a lot and got to know each others families. They saw each other graduate from university and start their first career positions. They broke up about 5 years ago because Kim got bored and decided that she wanted to see other people. After that, Al decided he wasn’t going to date Asian girls anymore. I suppose, he no longer trusted having a future with an Asian woman and feared being dumped again. Al still has the same mentality and he is single.
Al needs to live and let go of the past. When Kim moved on it had nothing to do with her race or culture. In fact, the man she married two years ago is Caucasian, just like Al.
So what is the message here….
The Foundational message here is to forgive and let go. When you forgive you let go of all the negative energy that lives within yourself. Al could be missing out on a lot of great opportunities to have a successful relationship with an Asian woman again or even any woman for that matter. People are allowed to choose what is right for them. Let it be.
Forgive yourself, forgive her, and allow yourself to live again.