A Cool Blog I Discovered Today

I discovered a really cool couple and their little baby online today at curreybagel.com. They write about their life in New York and travel abroad and give you glimpse of their biracial, bifaith and bireligion family life.  To see their perspective you can catch them on twitter @curreybagel.

 

Cooking For My In-laws

I remember when I first hosted my in-laws at my place for dinner.  It was a nerve racking experience because I knew that they would non-intentionally judge me for every detail that went into making the evening memorable.  I had plates, silverware, glasses, food, and some simple simple decorations to make the space more inviting.  I made rice, salmon, roasted vegetables, potatoes, and salad. I think I was cooking right up until the moment they knocked on the door.  I have never been solely responsible for cooking for 6 people, so I was very nervous.  One think a friend had said to me stayed in my mind and helped me get through the evening.  About a day earlier my friend said, “Don’t worry. It doesn’t matter how much food you serve, or how good it is (or isn’t), what matters is how you host them.”  Aha…now that brought peace to my mind. I suddenly didn’t care what my plates looked like and that I had a small dining table.  I finally stopped worrying about my cooking and just focused on making everyone feel loved. I had no doubt in my mind that I could do that and I did.

I received compliments on the food and to this day I’m still not sure if that was sincere, but I do know that everyone felt comfortable and enjoyed the time we shared.

I share this with you to bring some peace as you prepare for hosting a family or someone of a different culture. There is no need to cook something from your guests’ native country.  You know if you try that, it will be appreciated, but it likely won’t be as good as their native dish they have tasted before, so stick to what you know for that first dinner party.

A couple of points for you to take note:

  1. Respect the other culture, without compromising yours
  2. Be yourself
  3. Have fun

What would you say to nervous Singles about getting started with interracial dating?

Be open.  Don’t take anything personal. Just laugh!

Dating another race or culture will give you an experience that will be enlightening for the rest of your life. You will learn and see things that you may have never been exposed to otherwise. If you are considering dating someone outside of your race, you’re obviously not alone. Depending on where you live, this seems to be the trendy thing to do and I expect that this is more than a trend; this is our future.

My thoughts to nervous singles is to be cool and have no worries. The person you are about to go out with is probably nervous too.  Two negatives make a positive!  Haha….that’s just me being cheeky. Seriously though, just be ready to learn. Know yourself and be ready to share. The most exciting thing about interracial dating is that you will learn about each other.

Watch out for certain comments that really are not flattering:

“I have never dated a black girl before, so I thought I would give it a try”.

“I have always wanted to try dating someone exotic”.

“I wanted to find out if what they say about black men is true”.

“I heard Asian girls are submissive”.